In other words, I’m tall — taller than the typical American male. Not that you would know it from talking with other men; on average, they overestimate their own height by two inches (per a study by OkCupid; all apologies for the bisexual erasure at the end.) It goes without saying that I’m a good deal taller than the average American woman.
My brain conflates the notions of who I was with who I am. Once I cowered in the shadows of towering bullies. Today, I’m easily mistaken for the bully. I’ve learned that I need to say “excuse me” as I come up behind a woman on the sidewalk so that I won’t be mistaken for a silent, lurking predator. It took me a long time to realize I had to do that, that my bulk does not properly translate my meekness and pacifism. It disturbs me that I live in a world where I need to do this.
But height doesn’t come up when the discussion turns to privilege, in spite of the research that suggests it should. And I’m stuck wondering why that is. We don’t see coalition-building around the rights of the short. Why not? I’ve known people of below-average height, particularly men, who have recounted all manner of discrimination that I can’t relate to.
I’m left perplexed as to the illogic and unfairness of my species, and wonder if we will ever do better.